Hi Holt Families!
We hope you are settling into your new responsibilities … like educating children from home, changes at work, keeping tabs on best ways to stay safe and healthy. Let’s be real here – this is A LOT to handle! Stress is high and children are on high alert. For those of you who have adopted recently, you’re still working through the process of attachment, grief, integration and healing. A global health crisis is not making any of it easier.
Some children in your home may be going through abrupt changes, social losses and instability for the first time in their lives. Those who have previously experienced trauma have additional layers of stress and fear that are likely to resurface. This is all to say — if you’re struggling with difficult behaviors more than usual, you are not alone. Behaviors are how children communicate the stress they are under. To help them, we need to be able to understand what they are communicating.
Quarantine is presenting a wonderful opportunity for us grown-ups to look inward and work on strengthening our most precious relationships. To do so, however, we need to see the needs that hide behind challenging behaviors. We must also find ways to calm and connect — with ourselves and our kids — before we correct. Basically, we need to add some more TBRI® into our lives!
Many of you are familiar with The Connected Child (by Dr. Karyn Purvis and Dr. David Cross) and with TBRI ®, or Trust-Based Relational Intervention. If you’re not already a follower, now is the perfect time to become one. The connection-based approach guides parents in how to respond to difficult behavior in a way that builds trust and emotional connection, while empowering children to make good choices.
The developers of TBRI® are now offering the self-guided TBRI® 101 and TBRI® & Trauma-Informed Classrooms online courses FREE for 30 days through May. Their other digital selections are on sale for 25% off the regular price.
TBRI® 101 is a 7+ hour self-guided course in trust-based relationships delivered in whiteboard-style video lessons. It offers an informal yet thorough approach to Trust-Based Relational Intervention®. Dr. Karyn Purvis and Dr. David Cross guide the viewer through the principles and strategies of TBRI® and offer practical tips for implementation. Topics include understanding trauma, TBRI® empowering, connecting, and correcting principles, as well as real-life examples and testimonials from caregivers and professionals who use TBRI®.
Before this quarantine, you might not have found the TBRI® classroom training relevant as a parent. However, now that many of us are homebound and assisting our children with schoolwork, this online training has some really useful tips! You could also forward the information to your child’s teacher, principal or school district.
Since it is currently free, it would be a great opportunity to introduce educators to the concepts, tools and strategies of TBRI®. More than ever, our kids need consistency, connection, structure and nurture. These concepts are at the core of TBRI®. You can complete both trainings at your own pace and convenience within the 30-day period.
We are all just trying to do our best in very unusual circumstances. Be gentle with yourselves and take it one minute, one hour, one day at a time. It’s so helpful to have these amazing resources accessible and free right now!
Marissa Robello | Clinical Social Worker