The China program was meant to find us,” says Jason McBride, “and it’s one we hope finds many others.”
by Jason & Ryan McBride | Haddonfield, New Jersey
We decided on adoption in the early summer months of 2009. By late July that year, we had settled on Holt International as our agency and the special needs process as our desired route. In early August 2010, exactly one year later, we came home from China with our son, Wyeth. Going into our decision to join the China special needs process, we had all the same questions and concerns that any family would. Is this something we can handle? Can we trust our agency to give us the right information? What if it doesn’t work out? Will we later be forced into a situation out of guilt? We chose to write this article to answer some of these common questions that many of you are asking. Since we’ve been home with Wyeth, we’ve felt so strongly about our results and have served as a “mentor family” for others potentially interested in the program. We love making calls to prospective parents because it gives us a chance to share our experience, and most importantly…to play our small role in helping other families find the children they were meant for. Simply put, the program changed our lives, and so we want others to share in that miracle too.
From the start, Holt International made us feel confident in the decision we made. Their staff satisfied every question, both before and during the process, and their time estimate for completing the program was accurate. We were never hassled about choosing particular correctable problems on the checklist, nor did our child’s referral reflect anything other than what we had asked for. Holt completely supported our initial list and even allowed us to alter it along the way. When we received our child’s referral, concerns and additional questions we insisted on were met with a prompt and honest response. From our experience, we would not only recommend Holt International, but would fully endorse their China program as a wonderful way for families to find the children. Having been home for eight months now, Wyeth is 2 years old, completely healthy, and exceeding averages for his age in every area of development from language to social skills. In fact, the “minor, correctable problem” he was once diagnosed with in China was cured during our very first visit to Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia… by nothing more than an inexpensive over- the-counter medicine. He’s intelligent, caring, and has a bright personality that attracts smiling faces everywhere we go.
Looking back, we often ask ourselves what life would be like had we allowed our initial hesitations, though reasonable, to determine our path to adoption. What if we had held onto the notion that a healthy child was only available through the standard process? What if we hadn’t taken that leap of faith? Through those questions, we now know what the real risk always was… that we were once in a place that came so very close to us never finding our beautiful son, Wyeth. Our leap of faith was the best thing that has ever happened to us.
This program was meant to find us, and it’s one we hope finds many others. In fact, we liked it so much that we’re doing it again! Four months after returning home with Wyeth, we applied once more to Holt’s China program, this time to adopt our daughter.
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