Books & Websites

Welcome to the resource page! From here, you can find a variety of resources to meet your parenting needs. 

 

  • Adoption and the Stages of Development: https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubPDFs/f_stages.pdf
  • Child Development Institute   www.childevelopmentinfo.com   Packed with information about typi-cal child development and play
  • The Infant-Parent Institute   www.infant-parent.com
  • Behavior Management
    • Empowered to Connect    www.empoweredtoconnect.org     Associated with Karyn Purvis and TBRI this website has video clips ad-dressing specific behavior issues. Great for someone who doesn’t like or have time to read. It also has a free downloadable study guide to Karin’s book:” The Connected Child”
    • Child Welfare Information Gateway     www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/factsheets/preschool.cfm Find the adoption link and there is a wealth of information on many issues
    • Book: The Connected Child: Bring hope and healing to your adoptive family Written by: Dr. Karyn Purvis et. Al. The adoption of a child is always a joyous moment in the life of a family. Some adoptions, though, present unique challenges. Welcoming these children into your family--and ad-dressing their special needs--requires care, consideration, and compas-sion.
    • Trust Based Relational Intervention (TBRI) http://child.tcu.edu/about-us/tbri/ This is the parenting model that Holt teaches adoptive parents. The web-site has books, DVDs, and a list of trained professionals by state or name
    • Book: “Parenting From the Inside Out” by Daniel Siegel Helps parents understand the impact their own parents have on their par-enting beliefs
    • Book: No Drama Discipline Written by: Tina Payne Bryson an Dr. Dan Siegel Highlighting the fascinating link be-tween a child’s neurological devel-opment and the way a parent reacts to misbehavior, No-Drama Discipline provides an effective, compassionate road map for dealing with tantrums, tensions, and tears—without causing a scene.
  • The Adoption Life Cycle: The Children and Their Families Through the Years by Elinor B. Rosenberg
  • Adoption Healing… A Path to Recovery by Joe Soll
  • Adoption Nation: How the Adoption Revolution is Transforming America by Adam Pertman
  • Adoption Piece by Piece: Lifelong Issues by Sara Graefe
  • Beneath the Mask: Understanding Adopted Teens by Debbie Riley and John Meeks
  • A Child’s Journey Through Placement by Vera Fahlberg
  • The Family of Adoption by Joyce Maguire Pavao
  • Flight of the Stork: What Children Think (and When) about Sex and Family Building by Anne C. Bernstein
  • The Whole Life Adoption Book by Jayne E. Schooler and Thomas C. Atwood
  • Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self by David Brodzinsky, Marshall Schechter & Robin Henig
  • How It Feels to be Adopted by Jill Krementz
  • Journey to the Adopted Self: A Quest for Wholeness by Betty Jean Lifton
  • Lost and Found: The Adoption Experience by Betty Jean Lifton
  • Twenty Life Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make by Sherrie Eldridge
  • Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew by Sherrie Eldridge
  • What is my Teen Really Saying? (DVD) From the 2013 Tapestry Adoption and Foster Care Conference
  • Making Sense of it All: Helping Adopted Children Understand Who They Are (DVD) from the 2011 Tapestry Adoption and Foster Care Conference
  • Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self by David Brodzinsky, Marshall Schecter & Robin Henig
  • Brimming Over by Grace Sandness
  • Dreaming a World: Korean Birthmothers Tell Their Stories by Sansoon Han
  • Gift Children: A Story of Race, Family and Adoption in Divided America by J. Douglas Bates
  • I Wish for You a Beautiful Life: Letters from the Korean Birth Mothers of Ae Ran Won to Their Children by Sara Dorow (editor)
  • In Their Own Voices: Transracial Adoptees Tell Their Stories by Rita J. Simon & Rhonda M. Roorda
  • In Their Parents’ Voices: Reflections on Raising Transracial Adoptees by Rita Simon and Rhonda Roorda
  • In Their Siblings’ Voices: White Non-Adopted Siblings Talk About Their Experience Being Raised with Black and Biracial Brothers and Sisters by Rita Simon and Rhonda Roorda
  • Ithaka: A Daughter’s Memoir of Being Found by Sarah Saffian
  • Loving Across the Line: A White Adoptive Mother Learns About Race by Sharon Rush
  • My Family, A Symphony: A Memoir of Global Adoption by Aaron Eske
  • Outsiders Within: Writing on Transracial Adoption by Jane Jeong Trenka, Julia Chinyere Oparah and Sun Yung Shin
  • A Personal Touch On… Adoption by Berlin Peter
  • Perspectives on a Grafted Tree: Thoughts for Those Touched by Adoption by Patricia Irwin Johnston
  • The Search for Anna Fisher by Florence Fisher
  • Single Square Picture: A Korean Adoptee’s Search for Her Roots by Katy Robinson
  • Somebody’s Someone: A Memoir by Regina Louise
  • There Is No Me Without You: One Woman’s Odyssey to Rescue Her Country’s Children by Melissa Fay Greene
  • Twice Born: Memoirs of an Adopted Daughter by Betty Jean Lifton
  • Voices From Another Place by Susan Soon-Keum Cox
  • The Waiting Child: How the Faith and Love of One Orphan Saved the Life of Another by Cindy Champnella
  • Whose Child?: An Adoptee’s Healing Journey from Relinquishment through Reunion… and Beyond by Kasey Hamner
  • Beyond Culture Camp: Promoting Healthy Identity Formation in Adoption- Adoption Learning Partners webinar
  • Black Baby, White Hands: A View From the Crib by Jaiya John
  • Dim Sum, Bagels and Grits: A Sourcebook for Multicultural Families by Myra Alperson
  • Does Anybody Else Look Like Me? A Parent’s Guide to Raising Multicultural Children by Donna Jackson Nakazawa
  • Finding My Voice by Marie G. Lee
  • Gift Children: A Story of Race, Family and Adoption in Divided America by J. Douglas Bates
  • I’m Chocolate, You’re Vanilla: Raising Healthy Black and Biracial Children in a Race Conscious World by Marguerite Wright
  • In Their Own Voices: Transracial Adoptees Tell Their Stories by Rita J. Simon & Rhonda M. Roorda
  • In Their Parents’ Voices: Reflections on Raising Transracial Adoptees by Rita Simon and Rhonda Roorda
  • In Their Siblings’ Voices: White Non-Adopted Siblings Talk About Their Experience Being Raised with Black and Biracial Brothers and Sisters by Rita Simon and Rhonda Roorda
  • Inside Transracial Adoption by Gail Steinberg and Beth Hall
  • The Lost Daughters of China: Abandoned Girls, Their Journey to America and the Search for a Missing Past by Karin Evans
  • Loving Across the Line: A White Adoptive Mother Learns About Race by Sharon Rush
  • Outsiders Within: Writing on Transracial Adoption by Jane Jeong Trenka, Julia Chinyere Oparah and Sun Yung Shin
  • Transracial Adoption: Children and Parents Speak by Constance Pohl and Kathy Harris
  • Transracial Adoption and Foster Care by Joseph Crumbley
  • Weaving a Family: Untangling Race and Adoption by Barbara Katz Rothman
  • Yellow: Race in America Beyond Black and White by Frank Wu
PARENTING ADOPTED CHILDREN
  • Adoption Parenting: Creating a Toolbox, Building Connections by Jean MacLeod and Sheena Macrae
  • Beyond Consequences, Logic and Control: A Love-Based Approach to Helping Attachment-Challenged Children with Severe Behaviors by Heather T. Forbes and B. Bryan Post
  • Brothers and Sisters in Adoption by Arleta James
  • A Child’s Journey Through Placement by Vera Fahlberg
  • The Connected Child: Bringing Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family by Karyn Purvis and David Cross (highly recommended)
  • Parenting Adopted Adolescents: Understanding and Appreciating Their Journey by Gregory C. Keck
  • Parenting the Hurt Child: Helping Adoptive Families Heal and Grow by Gregory Keck and Regina Kupecky
  • Parenting Your Adopted Child by Andrew Adesman
  • Parenting Your Internationally Adopted Child by Patty Cogen
  • Real Parents, Real Children: Parenting the Adopted Child by Holly Van Gulden and Lisa M. Bartels-Rabb
  • Shared Fate: A Theory and Method of Adoptive Relationships by H. David Kirk
  • The Whole Life Adoption Book: Realistic Advice for Building a Healthy Adoptive Family by Jane E. Schooler
  • Parenting in the Eye of the Storm: The adoptive parents' guide to navigating the teen years by Katie Naftzger
GENERAL PARENTING
  • Caring for Your Baby and Young Child by American Academy of Pediatrics
  • Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline by Becky A. Bailey
  • The Five Love Languages of Children by Gary D. Chapman and Ross Campbell
  • How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber
  • I Love You Rituals by Becky A. Bailey
  • Siblings without Rivalry by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
  • Parenting from the Inside Out by Daniel Siegel
  • Positive Discipline by Jane Nelson (series)
  • The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
Activities to Promote Attachment
  • Baby Massage: The Calming Power of Touch book by Heath and Pain-braidge   http://babybabyohbaby.com     Information and resources regarding infant massage
  • Child massage - Touch Research In-stitute - University of Miami  Leaders in the field of the im-portance of touch
  • Book: Yoga Games for Children: Fun and Fitness with Postures, Move-ments and Breath  By Bersma, Misscher, and Looistra
  • "I Love You Rituals" by Rebecca Anne Bailey book of rhymes and games that send the message of un-conditional love for infants to 8 years old
  • Theraplay Institute www.theraplay.org    Play is essential for bonding to occur no matter what the age of the child.
  • Circle of Security    http://circleofsecurity.net/   A relationship based early intervention for ages 0-5 yrs. Register to at-tend a training or find a local facilitator
  • Learn about cocooning   http://www.lianalowenstein.com/articlesParentAdoptedChild.pdf
  • A is for Adopted by Eileen Tucker Cosby
  • Adoption is for Always by Linda Walvoord Girard
  • Adoption Stories for Young Children by Randall B. Hicks
  • All Kinds of Children by Norma Simon
  • Baby Owl Lost Her Whoo by Cindy R. Lee
  • Beginnings: How Families Come to Be by Virginia Kroll (Ages 4-8)
  • A Blessing from Above by Patti Henderson
  • The Coffee Can Kid by Jan M. Czech
  • The Day We Met You by Phoebe Koehler
  • Doggie Doesn't Know "No!" by Cindy R. Lee
  • Emma’s Yucky Brother (I Can Read Book 3) by Jean Little and Jennifer Plecas
  • Families Change: A Book for Children Experiencing Termination of Parental Rights by Julie Nelson
  • Family Day: Celebrating Ethan’s Adoption Anniversary by Christine Mitchell
  • God Found Us You by Lisa Tawn Bergren (Ages 4-8)
  • Happy Adoption Day! By John McCutcheon (Ages 2-6)
  • Horace by Holly Keller (Ages 2-8)
  • I Don’t Have Your Eyes by Carrie Kitze (Ages 2-5)
  • I Wished for You by Marianne Richmond
  • If It Hadn’t Been For Yoon Jun by Marie G. Lee (Ages 9-12)
  • It’s OK to Be Different by Todd Parr
  • It's Tough to Be Gentle by Cindy R. Lee
  • Let’s Talk About It: Adoption (Mr. Rogers) by Fred Rogers (Ages 4-8)
  • Little Miss Spider by David Kirk (Ages 1-6)
  • Lucy’s Family Tree by Karen Halvorsen Schreck (Ages 6-12)
  • Maybe Days: A Book for Children in Foster Care by Jennifer Wilgocki
  • A Mother for Choco by Keiko Kasza (Ages 2-8)
  • The Mulberry Bird by Ann Brodznisky (Ages 4-12)
  • Murphy’s Three Homes (A Story for Children in Foster Care) by Jan Levinson Gilman
  • My Adopted Child, There’s No One Like You by Kevin Leman
  • My Special Family: A Children’s Book About Open Adoption by Kathleen Silber and Debra Marks Parelskin
  • A New Barker in the House by Tomie dePaola
  • Over the Moon by Karen Katz
  • The Penguin and the Fine-Looking Fish by Cindy R. Lee
  • Rosie’s Family by Lori Rosove
  • Seeds of Love: For Brothers and Sisters of International Adoption by Mary Petertyl (Ages 2-6)
  • Shaoey and Dot: Bug Meets Bundle by Mary Beth and Stephen Curtis Chapman
  • The Skin You Live In by Michael Tyler
  • The Star (A Story to Help Young Children Understand Foster Care) by Cynthia Miller Lovell
  • Tell Me Again About the Night I was Born by Jamie Lee Curtis
  • Through Moon and Stars and Night Skies by Ann Turner (Ages 2-8)
  • Twice Upon a Time: Born and Adopted by Eleanora Patterson
  • We See the Moon by Carrie A. Kitze
  • We’re Different, We’re the Same by Bobbie Jane Kates
  • When You Were Born in China by Sara Dorow (Ages 6+)
  • When You Were Born in Korea by Brian Boyd (Ages 6+)
  • When You Were Born in Vietnam by Therese Bartlett (Ages 6+)
  • The Whole Me by Ellen K. Baron
  • W.I.S.E. Up Powerbook by Marilyn Schoettle (Ages 6-12)
  • Why Was I Adopted? by Carole Livingston (Ages 6+)
  • older-child.adoption.com/
  • Adopting the Older Child by Claudia L Jewett
  • No More Here and There: Adopting the Older Child by Ann Carney
  • Older Child Adoption by Grace Robinson
  • Our Own: Adopting and Parenting an Older Child by Trish Maskew
  • Parenting Your Older Child by Brenda McCreight
  • Adopting After Infertility by Patricia Irwin Johnston
  • Adopted and Wondering: Drawing out Feelings by Marge Eaton Heegaard
  • Helping Children Cope with Separation and Loss by Claudia Jewett
  • Why Didn’t She Keep Me? Answers to the Question Every Adopted Child Asks by Barbara Burlingham-Brown
  • Grief Watch  www.griefwatch.com
  • Empowered to Connect - multiple articles on grief and loss in adoption  empowerdtoconnect.org/topics/loss-and-grief
  • "When Sad Looks Mad" - Empowered to Connect video and article
Websites: Books:
  • Adopting the Hurt Child: Hope for Families with Special Needs Kids by Gregory Keck and Regina Kupecky
  • The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog by Bruce Perry and Maia Szalavitz
  • The Out of Sync Child by Carol Kranowitz
  • The Out of Sync Child Has Fun: Activities for Kids with Sensory Integration Dysfunction by Carol Kranowitz
  • Raising a Sensory Smart Child by Lindsey Biel and Nancy Peske
  • Wounded Children, Healing Homes: How Traumatized Children Impact Adoptive and Foster Families by Jayne Schooler, Betsy Keefer Smalley and Timothy Callahan
  • Not in Front of the Children: How to Talk to Your Child About Tough Family Matters by Lawrence Balter and Peggy Jo Donohue
  • Talking to Your Child About Adoption- a Heart of the Matter online course
  • Talking with Young Children About Adoption by Mary Watkins & Susan Fisher
  • Telling the Truth to Your Adopted or Foster Child: Making Sense of the Past by Betsy Keefer and Jayne E. Schooler
  • Adoption and the Schools: Resources for Parents and Teachers by Lansing Wood & Nancy Sheehan Ng
  • Adoption is a Family Affair: What Relatives and Friends Must Know by Patricia Irwin Johnston
  • Are Those Kids Yours?: American Families With Children Adopted From Other Countries by Cheri Register
  • Cross Cultural Adoption: How to Answer Questions from Family, Friends & Community by Amy Coughlin and Caryn Abramowitz
  • Designing Rituals of Adoption for the Religious and Secular Community by Mary Martin Mason
  • In On It: What adoptive parents would like you to know about adoption by Elisabeth O'Toole
  • When Friends Ask about Adoption by Linda Bothun
  • A Letter To Adoptive Parents On Open Adoption by Randolph Severson
  • Dear Birthmother by Kathleen Silber & Phyllis Speedlin
  • My Special Family: A Children’s Book About Open Adoption by Kathleen Silber and Debra Marks Parelskin
  • Open Adoption: A Caring Option by Jean Warren Lindsay
  • Painful Lessons, Loving Bonds: The Heart of Open Adoption by March Wineman Axness
Websites: Books:
  • Adopting and Advocating for the Special Needs Child: A Guide for Parents and Professionals by Rita Laws
  • Adopting the Hurt Child: Hope for Families with Special Needs Kids by Gregory Keck and Regina Kupecky
  • After the Tears: Parents Talk About Raising a Child with a Disability by Robin Simons
  • The Child With Special Needs by Stanley Greenspan and Serena Wieder
  • Nobody’s Perfect: Living and Growing with Children Who Have Special Needs by Nancy Miller and J.C. Dieterle
  • Same Lake, Different Boat: Coming Alongside People Touched by Disability by Stephanie Hubach
  • With Eyes Wide Open: A Workbook for Parents Adopting International Children Over Age One by Margi Miller
  • You Will Dream New Dreams: Inspiring Personal Stories by Parents of Children with Disabilities by Stanley D. Klein and Kim Schive
Websites: Books:
  • Adoption Medicine: Caring for Children and Families by American Academy of Pediatrics, edited by Patrick W. Mason, Dana E. Johnson and Lisa Albers Prock
  • The Handbook of International Adoption Medicine: A Guide for Physicians, Parents, and Providers by Laurie Miller
  • Helping Your Child with Extreme Picky Eating by Katja Rowell, MD
  • Love Me, Feed Me: The Adoptive Parent’s Guide to Ending Worry About Weight, Picky Eating, Power Struggles by Katja Rowell, MD
  • Closure
  • Somewhere Between
  • You Follow
  • First Person Plural
  • In the Matter of Cha Jung Hee
  • Approved for Adoption
  • Twinsters
Not all movies are suitable for young children, please screen each before watching it with your children.
  • Kung Fu Panda 1-3
  • Finding Dory
  • Superman 1978
  • Annie
  • Philomena
  • Admission
  • Catfish in Black Bean Sauce
  • Juno
  • Stuart Little
  • Lion
  • US Department of Education    www.ed.gov    Information about IEP and 504 process. Good info on obtaining services for children with special needs.
  • Understanding an Individual Education Plan and 504 Plans    www.nacac.org/postadopt/faqs.html#13    Excellent detailed information on content of a plan and how to initiate an evaluation for an IEP.
  • American Speech-Language-Hearing Association    www.asha.org/    In addition to typical information has info regarding learning a second language and there is a search function to locate professionals.
  • Center for Cognitive-Developmental Assessment and Remediation     www.bgcenter.com    Specializes in assessing internationally adopted children for school readiness (Boris Gindis).
  • Learning Problems in Adopted Children    www.schwablearning.org/articles.aspx?r=689     An article by Annie Stuart.
  • Schools and adoption     www.childwelfare.gov/adoption/adopt_parenting/school/    A treasure trove of information on helping your adoptee in the school environment.
  • Adoption Resources Center, Family Helper    www.familyhelper.net/arc/lng.html    Has guide available for purchase about preparing your adoptee for school and her teacher for adoption issues.
  • Center for Adoption Support and Education (CASE)    www.adoptionsupport.org    National resource for families and professionals and this is where to get the W.I.S.E. Up Powerbook and the S.A.F.E. at School programs.
  • KidSource. What is Early Interven-tion?    www.kidsource.com/kidsource/content/early.intervention.html
Holt’s three webinars on Preparing Sisters and Brothers for Adoption. After opening the link, select “view event recording” and scroll to find webinar. Go to Holt Post Adoption Services website for link: http://www.holtinternational.org/pas/holt-post-adoption-webinars/
Neurofeedback
  • EEG Spectrum    www.eegspectrum.com     Explains neurofeedback and its ap-plication also has provider locator.
 
  • The Fathers Network    www.fathersnetwork.org    Information and resources for the care of children with special needs.
  • Men Web    www.menweb.org    Information regarding fathering, anger, grief and depression, marriage and relationships.
  • National Center for Fathering     www.fathers.com    Equipping men to be more effectively involved in the lives of children. Has an area for adoptive fathers to post messages to each other.