Books & Websites

Welcome to the resource page! From here, you can find a variety of resources to meet your parenting needs. 

 

  • Adoption and the Stages of Development: https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubPDFs/f_stages.pdf
  • Child Development Institute   www.childevelopmentinfo.com   Packed with information about typi-cal child development and play
  • The Infant-Parent Institute   www.infant-partent.com
  • Videos related to attachment, infant development, adoption and foster care.
    • Child Developmentally Appropriate Toys and Games    www.fisher-price.dom Once you determine your adoptee’s social and emotional age you can quickly locate games and toys ap-propriate for your child. Also includ-ed is information about child devel-opment and play skills
  • Behavior Management
    • Empowered to Connect    www.empoweredtoconnect.org     Associated with Karyn Purvis and TBRI this website has video clips ad-dressing specific behavior issues. Great for someone who doesn’t like or have time to read. It also has a free downloadable study guide to Karin’s book:” The Connected Child”
    • Child Welfare Information Gateway     www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/factsheets/preschool.cfm Find the adoption link and there is a wealth of information on many issues
    • Book: The Connected Child: Bring hope and healing to your adoptive family Written by: Dr. Karyn Purvis et. Al. The adoption of a child is always a joyous moment in the life of a family. Some adoptions, though, present unique challenges. Welcoming these children into your family--and ad-dressing their special needs--requires care, consideration, and compas-sion.
    • Trust Based Relational Intervention (TBRI) http://child.tcu.edu/about-us/tbri/ This is the parenting model that Holt teaches adoptive parents. The web-site has books, DVDs, and a list of trained professionals by state or name
    • Book: “Parenting From the Inside Out” by Daniel Siegel Helps parents understand the impact their own parents have on their par-enting beliefs
    • Book: No Drama Discipline Written by: Tina Payne Bryson an Dr. Dan Siegel Highlighting the fascinating link be-tween a child’s neurological devel-opment and the way a parent reacts to misbehavior, No-Drama Discipline provides an effective, compassionate road map for dealing with tantrums, tensions, and tears—without causing a scene.
    • Rights4me    www.rights4me.org
  • Families with Children from China: www.fwcc.org/index.php/local-chapters
  • Families with Children From Vietnam: www.fcvn.org
  • Korean Focus: www.koreanfocus.org
  • Northwest Adoptive Families Association (OR/WA): www.nafaonline.org
  • Northwest ICHILD (India Child) Pakistan, Bangladesh, Sri Lanka, and Nepal: www.nwichild.org
  • Websites:
    • www.adoptionlifebooks.com
    • www.tapestrybooks.com/product-category/adoption-lifebooks
    • www.scrapandtell.com/Layouts.asp
  • Books:
    • Adoption Lifebook: A Bridge to Your Child’s Beginnings by Cindy Probst
    • Before You Were Mine: Discovering Your Adopted Child’s Lifestory by Susan TeBos and Carissa Woodwyk
    • Filling in the Blanks: A Guided Look at Growing Up Adopted by Susan Gabel (for teens)
    • Lifebooks: Creating a Treasure for the Adopted Child by Beth O’Malley
  • The Adoption Life Cycle: The Children and Their Families Through the Years by Elinor B. Rosenberg
  • Adoption Healing… A Path to Recovery by Joe Soll
  • Adoption Nation: How the Adoption Revolution is Transforming America by Adam Pertman
  • Adoption Piece by Piece: Lifelong Issues by Sara Graefe
  • Beneath the Mask: Understanding Adopted Teens by Debbie Riley and John Meeks
  • A Child’s Journey Through Placement by Vera Fahlberg
  • The Family of Adoption by Joyce Maguire Pavao
  • Flight of the Stork: What Children Think (and When) about Sex and Family Building by Anne C. Bernstein
  • The Whole Life Adoption Book by Jayne E. Schooler and Thomas C. Atwood
  • Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self by David Brodzinsky, Marshall Schechter & Robin Henig
  • How It Feels to be Adopted by Jill Krementz
  • Journey to the Adopted Self: A Quest for Wholeness by Betty Jean Lifton
  • Lost and Found: The Adoption Experience by Betty Jean Lifton
  • Twenty Life Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make by Sherrie Eldridge
  • Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew by Sherrie Eldridge
  • What is my Teen Really Saying? (DVD) From the 2013 Tapestry Adoption and Foster Care Conference
  • Making Sense of it All: Helping Adopted Children Understand Who They Are (DVD) from the 2011 Tapestry Adoption and Foster Care Conference
  • Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self by David Brodzinsky, Marshall Schecter & Robin Henig
  • Brimming Over by Grace Sandness
  • Dreaming a World: Korean Birthmothers Tell Their Stories by Sansoon Han
  • Gift Children: A Story of Race, Family and Adoption in Divided America by J. Douglas Bates
  • I Wish for You a Beautiful Life: Letters from the Korean Birth Mothers of Ae Ran Won to Their Children by Sara Dorow (editor)
  • In Their Own Voices: Transracial Adoptees Tell Their Stories by Rita J. Simon & Rhonda M. Roorda
  • In Their Parents’ Voices: Reflections on Raising Transracial Adoptees by Rita Simon and Rhonda Roorda
  • In Their Siblings’ Voices: White Non-Adopted Siblings Talk About Their Experience Being Raised with Black and Biracial Brothers and Sisters by Rita Simon and Rhonda Roorda
  • Ithaka: A Daughter’s Memoir of Being Found by Sarah Saffian
  • Loving Across the Line: A White Adoptive Mother Learns About Race by Sharon Rush
  • My Family, A Symphony: A Memoir of Global Adoption by Aaron Eske
  • Outsiders Within: Writing on Transracial Adoption by Jane Jeong Trenka, Julia Chinyere Oparah and Sun Yung Shin
  • A Personal Touch On… Adoption by Berlin Peter
  • Perspectives on a Grafted Tree: Thoughts for Those Touched by Adoption by Patricia Irwin Johnston
  • The Search for Anna Fisher by Florence Fisher
  • Single Square Picture: A Korean Adoptee’s Search for Her Roots by Katy Robinson
  • Somebody’s Someone: A Memoir by Regina Louise
  • There Is No Me Without You: One Woman’s Odyssey to Rescue Her Country’s Children by Melissa Fay Greene
  • Twice Born: Memoirs of an Adopted Daughter by Betty Jean Lifton
  • Voices From Another Place by Susan Soon-Keum Cox
  • The Waiting Child: How the Faith and Love of One Orphan Saved the Life of Another by Cindy Champnella
  • Whose Child?: An Adoptee’s Healing Journey from Relinquishment through Reunion… and Beyond by Kasey Hamner
  • Beyond Culture Camp: Promoting Healthy Identity Formation in Adoption- Adoption Learning Partners webinar
  • Black Baby, White Hands: A View From the Crib by Jaiya John
  • Dim Sum, Bagels and Grits: A Sourcebook for Multicultural Families by Myra Alperson
  • Does Anybody Else Look Like Me? A Parent’s Guide to Raising Multicultural Children by Donna Jackson Nakazawa
  • Finding My Voice by Marie G. Lee
  • Gift Children: A Story of Race, Family and Adoption in Divided America by J. Douglas Bates
  • I’m Chocolate, You’re Vanilla: Raising Healthy Black and Biracial Children in a Race Conscious World by Marguerite Wright
  • In Their Own Voices: Transracial Adoptees Tell Their Stories by Rita J. Simon & Rhonda M. Roorda
  • In Their Parents’ Voices: Reflections on Raising Transracial Adoptees by Rita Simon and Rhonda Roorda
  • In Their Siblings’ Voices: White Non-Adopted Siblings Talk About Their Experience Being Raised with Black and Biracial Brothers and Sisters by Rita Simon and Rhonda Roorda
  • Inside Transracial Adoption by Gail Steinberg and Beth Hall
  • The Lost Daughters of China: Abandoned Girls, Their Journey to America and the Search for a Missing Past by Karin Evans
  • Loving Across the Line: A White Adoptive Mother Learns About Race by Sharon Rush
  • Outsiders Within: Writing on Transracial Adoption by Jane Jeong Trenka, Julia Chinyere Oparah and Sun Yung Shin
  • Transracial Adoption: Children and Parents Speak by Constance Pohl and Kathy Harris
  • Transracial Adoption and Foster Care by Joseph Crumbley
  • Weaving a Family: Untangling Race and Adoption by Barbara Katz Rothman
  • Yellow: Race in America Beyond Black and White by Frank Wu
PARENTING ADOPTED CHILDREN
  • Adoption Parenting: Creating a Toolbox, Building Connections by Jean MacLeod and Sheena Macrae
  • Beyond Consequences, Logic and Control: A Love-Based Approach to Helping Attachment-Challenged Children with Severe Behaviors by Heather T. Forbes and B. Bryan Post
  • Brothers and Sisters in Adoption by Arleta James
  • A Child’s Journey Through Placement by Vera Fahlberg
  • The Connected Child: Bringing Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family by Karyn Purvis and David Cross (highly recommended)
  • Parenting Adopted Adolescents: Understanding and Appreciating Their Journey by Gregory C. Keck
  • Parenting the Hurt Child: Helping Adoptive Families Heal and Grow by Gregory Keck and Regina Kupecky
  • Parenting Your Adopted Child by Andrew Adesman
  • Parenting Your Internationally Adopted Child by Patty Cogen
  • Real Parents, Real Children: Parenting the Adopted Child by Holly Van Gulden and Lisa M. Bartels-Rabb
  • Shared Fate: A Theory and Method of Adoptive Relationships by H. David Kirk
  • The Whole Life Adoption Book: Realistic Advice for Building a Healthy Adoptive Family by Jane E. Schooler
  • Parenting in the Eye of the Storm: The adoptive parents' guide to navigating the teen years by Katie Naftzger
GENERAL PARENTING
  • Caring for Your Baby and Young Child by American Academy of Pediatrics
  • Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline by Becky A. Bailey
  • The Five Love Languages of Children by Gary D. Chapman and Ross Campbell
  • How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber
  • I Love You Rituals by Becky A. Bailey
  • Siblings without Rivalry by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
  • Parenting from the Inside Out by Daniel Siegel
  • Positive Discipline by Jane Nelson (series)
  • The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
  • Association for Treatment & Training in the Attachment of Children (ATTACh): www.attach.org
  • Attaching in Adoption: Practical Tools for Today’s Parents by Deborah Gray
  • Becoming Attached by Robert Karen
  • Building the Bonds of Attachment: Awakening Life in Deeply Troubled Children by Daniel Hughes
  • Attachment Issues and Reactive Attachment Disorder Helpguide.org
  • Dr. Karyn Purvis on establishing the bonds of connection:   http://creatingafamily.org/connected-child-bring-hope-healing-adoptive-family/
Activities to Promote Attachment
  • Baby Massage: The Calming Power of Touch book by Heath and Pain-braidge   http://babybabyohbaby.com     Information and resources regarding infant massage
  • Child massage - Touch Research In-stitute - University of Miami  Leaders in the field of the im-portance of touch
  • Book: Yoga Games for Children: Fun and Fitness with Postures, Move-ments and Breath  By Bersma, Misscher, and Looistra
  • "I Love You Rituals" by Rebecca Anne Bailey book of rhymes and games that send the message of un-conditional love for infants to 8 years old
  • Theraplay Institute www.theraplay.org    Play is essential for bonding to occur no matter what the age of the child.
  • Circle of Security    http://circleofsecurity.net/   A relationship based early intervention for ages 0-5 yrs. Register to at-tend a training or find a local facilitator
  • Learn about cocooning   http://www.lianalowenstein.com/articlesParentAdoptedChild.pdf
  • A is for Adopted by Eileen Tucker Cosby
  • Adoption is for Always by Linda Walvoord Girard
  • Adoption Stories for Young Children by Randall B. Hicks
  • All Kinds of Children by Norma Simon
  • Baby Owl Lost Her Whoo by Cindy R. Lee
  • Beginnings: How Families Come to Be by Virginia Kroll (Ages 4-8)
  • A Blessing from Above by Patti Henderson
  • The Coffee Can Kid by Jan M. Czech
  • The Day We Met You by Phoebe Koehler
  • Doggie Doesn't Know "No!" by Cindy R. Lee
  • Emma’s Yucky Brother (I Can Read Book 3) by Jean Little and Jennifer Plecas
  • Families Change: A Book for Children Experiencing Termination of Parental Rights by Julie Nelson
  • Family Day: Celebrating Ethan’s Adoption Anniversary by Christine Mitchell
  • God Found Us You by Lisa Tawn Bergren (Ages 4-8)
  • Happy Adoption Day! By John McCutcheon (Ages 2-6)
  • Horace by Holly Keller (Ages 2-8)
  • I Don’t Have Your Eyes by Carrie Kitze (Ages 2-5)
  • I Wished for You by Marianne Richmond
  • If It Hadn’t Been For Yoon Jun by Marie G. Lee (Ages 9-12)
  • It’s OK to Be Different by Todd Parr
  • It's Tough to Be Gentle by Cindy R. Lee
  • Let’s Talk About It: Adoption (Mr. Rogers) by Fred Rogers (Ages 4-8)
  • Little Miss Spider by David Kirk (Ages 1-6)
  • Lucy’s Family Tree by Karen Halvorsen Schreck (Ages 6-12)
  • Maybe Days: A Book for Children in Foster Care by Jennifer Wilgocki
  • A Mother for Choco by Keiko Kasza (Ages 2-8)
  • The Mulberry Bird by Ann Brodznisky (Ages 4-12)
  • Murphy’s Three Homes (A Story for Children in Foster Care) by Jan Levinson Gilman
  • My Adopted Child, There’s No One Like You by Kevin Leman
  • My Special Family: A Children’s Book About Open Adoption by Kathleen Silber and Debra Marks Parelskin
  • A New Barker in the House by Tomie dePaola
  • Over the Moon by Karen Katz
  • The Penguin and the Fine-Looking Fish by Cindy R. Lee
  • Rosie’s Family by Lori Rosove
  • Seeds of Love: For Brothers and Sisters of International Adoption by Mary Petertyl (Ages 2-6)
  • Shaoey and Dot: Bug Meets Bundle by Mary Beth and Stephen Curtis Chapman
  • The Skin You Live In by Michael Tyler
  • The Star (A Story to Help Young Children Understand Foster Care) by Cynthia Miller Lovell
  • Tell Me Again About the Night I was Born by Jamie Lee Curtis
  • Through Moon and Stars and Night Skies by Ann Turner (Ages 2-8)
  • Twice Upon a Time: Born and Adopted by Eleanora Patterson
  • We See the Moon by Carrie A. Kitze
  • We’re Different, We’re the Same by Bobbie Jane Kates
  • When You Were Born in China by Sara Dorow (Ages 6+)
  • When You Were Born in Korea by Brian Boyd (Ages 6+)
  • When You Were Born in Vietnam by Therese Bartlett (Ages 6+)
  • The Whole Me by Ellen K. Baron
  • W.I.S.E. Up Powerbook by Marilyn Schoettle (Ages 6-12)
  • Why Was I Adopted? by Carole Livingston (Ages 6+)
  • www.olderchildadoption.com/
  • older-child.adoption.com/
  • Adopting the Older Child by Claudia L Jewett
  • No More Here and There: Adopting the Older Child by Ann Carney
  • Older Child Adoption by Grace Robinson
  • Our Own: Adopting and Parenting an Older Child by Trish Maskew
  • Parenting Your Older Child by Brenda McCreight
  • Adopting After Infertility by Patricia Irwin Johnston
  • Adopted and Wondering: Drawing out Feelings by Marge Eaton Heegaard
  • Helping Children Cope with Separation and Loss by Claudia Jewett
  • Why Didn’t She Keep Me? Answers to the Question Every Adopted Child Asks by Barbara Burlingham-Brown
Websites:
  • Brain Facts (learn about the brain): www.brainfacts.org
  • Child Trauma Academy: www.childtrauma.org
  • Healing HistoricalTrauma: www.sharingculture.info
  • National Child Traumatic Stress Network: www.nctsnet.org
Books:
  • Adopting the Hurt Child: Hope for Families with Special Needs Kids by Gregory Keck and Regina Kupecky
  • The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog by Bruce Perry and Maia Szalavitz
  • The Out of Sync Child by Carol Kranowitz
  • The Out of Sync Child Has Fun: Activities for Kids with Sensory Integration Dysfunction by Carol Kranowitz
  • Raising a Sensory Smart Child by Lindsey Biel and Nancy Peske
  • Wounded Children, Healing Homes: How Traumatized Children Impact Adoptive and Foster Families by Jayne Schooler, Betsy Keefer Smalley and Timothy Callahan
  • Not in Front of the Children: How to Talk to Your Child About Tough Family Matters by Lawrence Balter and Peggy Jo Donohue
  • Talking to Your Child About Adoption- a Heart of the Matter online course
  • Talking with Young Children About Adoption by Mary Watkins & Susan Fisher
  • Telling the Truth to Your Adopted or Foster Child: Making Sense of the Past by Betsy Keefer and Jayne E. Schooler
  • Adoption and the Schools: Resources for Parents and Teachers by Lansing Wood & Nancy Sheehan Ng
  • Adoption is a Family Affair: What Relatives and Friends Must Know by Patricia Irwin Johnston
  • Are Those Kids Yours?: American Families With Children Adopted From Other Countries by Cheri Register
  • Cross Cultural Adoption: How to Answer Questions from Family, Friends & Community by Amy Coughlin and Caryn Abramowitz
  • Designing Rituals of Adoption for the Religious and Secular Community by Mary Martin Mason
  • When Friends Ask about Adoption by Linda Bothun
  • A Letter To Adoptive Parents On Open Adoption by Randolph Severson
  • Dear Birthmother by Kathleen Silber & Phyllis Speedlin
  • My Special Family: A Children’s Book About Open Adoption by Kathleen Silber and Debra Marks Parelskin
  • Open Adoption: A Caring Option by Jean Warren Lindsay
  • Painful Lessons, Loving Bonds: The Heart of Open Adoption by March Wineman Axness
Websites:
  • Children’s Disabilities Information: www.childrensdisabilities.info
  • America Heart Association: www.americanheart.org
  • American Liver Foundation: www.liverfoundation.org/
  • Cleft Palate Foundation: www.cleftline.org
  • Hydrocephalus Association: www.hydroassoc.org/
  • March of Dimes: www.marchofdimes.org/
  • National Down Syndrome Society: www.ndss.org/
  • National Institute on Deafness and Other Communication Disorders: www.nidcd.nih.gov/
  • National Organization of Fetal Alcohol Syndrome: www.nofas.org
  • Parents of Kids with Infectious Diseases: www.pkids.org/
  • Spina Bifida Association: www.spinabifidaassociation.org/
  • Urological Care Foundation: www.urologyhealth.org/
Books:
  • Adopting and Advocating for the Special Needs Child: A Guide for Parents and Professionals by Rita Laws
  • Adopting the Hurt Child: Hope for Families with Special Needs Kids by Gregory Keck and Regina Kupecky
  • After the Tears: Parents Talk About Raising a Child with a Disability by Robin Simons
  • The Child With Special Needs by Stanley Greenspan and Serena Wieder
  • Nobody’s Perfect: Living and Growing with Children Who Have Special Needs by Nancy Miller and J.C. Dieterle
  • Same Lake, Different Boat: Coming Alongside People Touched by Disability by Stephanie Hubach
  • With Eyes Wide Open: A Workbook for Parents Adopting International Children Over Age One by Margi Miller
  • You Will Dream New Dreams: Inspiring Personal Stories by Parents of Children with Disabilities by Stanley D. Klein and Kim Schive
Websites:
  • Adoptive Families Magazine medical section: www.adoptivefamilies.com/medical
  • The Feeding Doctor: www.thefeedingdoctor.com
  • International Adoption Medical Clinics: www.comeunity.com/adoption/health/clinics.html
Books:
  • Adoption Medicine: Caring for Children and Families by American Academy of Pediatrics, edited by Patrick W. Mason, Dana E. Johnson and Lisa Albers Prock
  • The Handbook of International Adoption Medicine: A Guide for Physicians, Parents, and Providers by Laurie Miller
  • Helping Your Child with Extreme Picky Eating by Katja Rowell, MD
  • Love Me, Feed Me: The Adoptive Parent’s Guide to Ending Worry About Weight, Picky Eating, Power Struggles by Katja Rowell, MD
  • Closure
  • Somewhere Between
  • You Follow
  • First Person Plural
  • In the Matter of Cha Jung Hee
  • Approved for Adoption
  • Twinsters
Not all movies are suitable for young children, please screen each before watching it with your children.
  • Kung Fu Panda 1-3
  • Finding Dory
  • Superman 1978
  • Annie
  • Philomena
  • Admission
  • Catfish in Black Bean Sauce
  • Juno
  • Stuart Little