henry&tessmom wrote:Is the bio a requirement?
Lillie wrote:It's up to you, but while the teachers may want you to provide a short biography, you still don't need to share her adoption story if you don't want to.
Lillie wrote:If it were I, I would start by simply asking your daughter what she wants to share. I wouldn't ask it as a leading question, but rather without prompting her either way about her adoption and beginnings (e.g. What would you like to share when you are the "Star of the Week"?).
LindaNJ wrote:Matt (BIO) has two IA students in his class. (Grace has none ) They always gloss over the adoption part in projects. I always wonder if it's like ignoring the elephant in the room for them. They aren't comfortable talking about it, so they ignore it in the project. But it has to be something they are thinking about while completing the project. My hope is that Grace will include it briefly and be comfortable with it.
Big factor for us: Matt and Grace go to a small Catholic school--about 500 students. Everyone gets to know everyone--very much a family atmosphere. We also see students with their families at Church. Grace will be with these kids from nursery through 8 grade. So the kids in nursery at 4yo are the same kids that are with her now---the age where kids will start to question her. If she was in public school--where there are 9 classes in each grade, it might be different. Another factors is that the Catholic families are VERY supportive of adoption. I wonder if she would get the same reception in public school where some may not be supportive of adoption.
So the other side of your options for this project is to use it to briefly talk about adoption. It's a chance for her to start to talk about adoption and become comfortable with it. Maybe it will decrease questions in the future.
henry&tessmom wrote:LindaNJ wrote:Also, our public school friends and their families have been very supportive of adoption, it's not even an issue. Why would people at a public school not be supportive of adoption? Henry and Tess have been going to the same schools, with the same kids, since K so it's a very similar situation: There are only 250 kids in their elementary school! Their friends from school, sports, etc. just see us as their parents, it's absolutely no big deal and nobody has ever said anything negative to them about it. If it comes up, the other kids are just curious and actually think it's really cool that they were born in Korea and have names that "mean something." I was a little worried that it might become in an issue this year for Henry in middle school because it's a bigger school that takes kids from four elementary schools, but there were absolutely no problems adoption or race-wise. i think it helped that he has friends from all four of the "feeder" schools because of sports, so everybody already knows our family and just see us as "us."
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