Bye

[ZoeKLT]

I'm heading out, for now. DH and I have spent the last few days doing serious soul searching about whether to pursue the adoption of the older child that we had discussed earlier. We are not going to pursue the adoption - and I need to come to terms with the fact that DH really does not want to adopt again.

Although I am of course very happy with my family and adore my children, I still want to adopt again....and until I accept that it's not going to happen, I need to step away from the entire adoption culture. The boards, the waiting child lists, the adoption pages - it's all too hard for me right now.

So for now, I'm outta here. I'm keeping my ID open because I hope to be able to return someday, but for the foreseeable future, I'm going away.

Best wishes everyone!

-Zoe

[Barbara]

You will be missed! But totally understandable and very wise on your part. Wishing you all the very best and hope to see you back sooner rather than later.

[Minmom]

Best of lucky in finding peace in your heart.

Kathy

[dagmara04]

I'm sorry to hear the pain in your words.

amanda

[elfkin]

Hope everything works out so that you are both happy and peaceful in your soul over this. See you when you return!

[Andrea]

I hope we'll see you again soon.

Andrea

[JJ's Mom]

Zoe, I've enjoyed your input and hope you'll be back.

Thinking of you.

[jar]

Totally understand.
Peace to your family!

[Norsk Mummy]

Completely understand. You comments have always been appreciated and I hope you can return when you have peace.

[chinacarrie03]

Hope that you find the peace that you need!!

[ecuador2004]

I am so sorry you have so much pain right now... Prayers for peace in your family...

[Marltonmom]

Sorry to hear about your situation. My husband comes across it all the time (he's a pediatrician) ... one parent wants another child, the other does not. I hope you are able to find peace and joy.

[mparker]

Zoe,

I feel your pain. I understand how much it hurts. I am so sorry you are dealing with this issue. For me, at this point in my life, I am too old (51 yrs. old), too poor, and have health issues that would prevent me from adopting again. But, for some reason, I still think "The more the merrier!!, Surely, there is room for one more." Children have been a great blessing in my life. I too, am having a hard time accepting that adding a new son or daughter to the family is no longer possible.

Have faith, Zoe, that God will bless your life in ways that you could never have imagined because you love children. Nothing makes God happier than for us to love a child. For now, maybe you could consider other avenues to have more children in your life? Volunteering is a great way to enjoy children. There are many wonderful volunteer programs, such as Big Brothers/Big Sisters. I help out at my church's AWANA club, and at our homeschooling co-op. I love it!! I plan on going on a mission trip someday too, can't wait!

Take care. Hope you feel better soon. Try to have fun this summer! God bless.

[JaM]

You will be missed but I understand why you are going. *hug* Praying for peace for you.