4fromkorea wrote:We felt the same way Wenders11 did/does. We felt like there would be enough reasons to feel different that if we could control one of those we would. As a high school teacher I was all too aware that kids just want to "fit in". We chose to not use any part of our children's Korean names. They have an "American" first, middle and last name. Although my children have 2 full names (their Korean name and their American name), only 1 is legal, but that in no way negates the value or importance of their Korean name. They all have their Korean names on their wall in their room and then on some baby blocks I made on the mantle. They are also tattooed on daddy's arm. We use them occasionally around the house as well. Like Barbara said they had no choice in the changing of their name, so we have told them we will pay if they want to change them someday.
I also feel the same way. I asked imput from teen Korean adoptive kids before naming our daughter. They definately said to use an American name. My boys were instrumental in our choice of a name. Natalie loves that. Like Robin, we did not use Natalie's Korean name in any part of her legal name. She does know what it is and it is a special name to us. She also knows the meaning of her Korean name.
Names are extremely important for identifying with family. We chose a name that is special to us. Her middle name is also very special after a close friend.
A name is one of the most loving personal thing you give your child. We thought long and hard on names for all 3 of our children. They all are special. I am glad I am able to add to Natalie's story the reasons why we named her what we did.
I have zero regrets with the name we choose.